Can you say exactly what you mean here? If you mean go to openstreetmap.org to check, you will immediately get users tell you their tree “isn’t on the map”. This is because map tiles presented there take a while to update: see here.
I’m keen to be as positive as possible here: we need to make editing the map easy, and the community needs to be an open one.
At the same time, if the above is what you meant, the tile refresh issue is very, very basic OSM knowledge: it’s most novice users’ first question. I’m wondering if you would all benefit from several weeks editing the map yourselves, so you get a sense of how it works? OSM appears to be a major pillar of the project, and your profiles appear not to show much experience (I may be missing something, of course).